I love Valentine’s Day! You can surprise a friend or a beloved with a gift or a card to show them how much they mean to you. You can plan an outing or something enjoyable to do. It can be a surprise you devise all on your own or with someone’s help. My Yellow heart beats faster just thinking about it …
But I know what the Brilliant Blues are thinking: “Get thee away!”. For them it’s a day to ignore to avoid fruitless and wasteful expenditure and frivolous nonsense. The Raving Reds have too much work to do and cannot take any time off for romantic fun. And the Groovy Greens are happy to read a romantic novel behind closed doors.
In the words of the Supremes: “Stop! In the name of love, before you break my heart. Think it over”. Here are a few wise quotes that I hope will encourage you to reconsider how to approach the 14th of February.
Love: A temporary insanity curable by marriage.
-Ambrose Bierce
The best thing that can happen to a couple is to fall out of their puppy love. Lasting, inspiring love is not a feeling, but a decision, a choice. It is reflected in your consistent actions of respect, loyalty, kindness, forgiveness, patience and support.
Puppy love literally makes your brain wonky and ensures that two unique individuals come together. A healthy partnership eventually grows out of it so that you can stay together.
But if one of you does want to rekindle the romantic sparks every now and then, just do it – on special occasions or any other day of the year. Remind each other of what you used to both enjoy in the beginning of your relationship.
True love comes quietly without banners or flashing lights.
If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
-Erich Segal
There are no rules when it comes to the how and the where to celebrate your day of love. Some of us would actually enjoy banners and bells, but you must please do you.
What makes your beloved feel loved? Ask and just do that what your person says. So often we focus on what we see on social media or hear in podcasts instead of listening to each other.
For instance: Does your partner really yearn for a dinner in a trendy five-star restaurant, or would he or she love to have the inside of their car vacuumed? (Pay your child to do it or get a voucher from a cleaning service if you are not fond of this task.)
An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have.
The older she gets, the more interested he is in her.
-Agatha Christie
Perhaps this is the best contribution a commercial enterprise in the name of love can have on all types of connections: It gives us a reason to focus on the people we care for. We learn a bit more about each other, our likes and dislikes, interests and joys.
The more you know someone and the more you discover their quirks and idiosyncrasies, the more interesting (and lovable) they become. And even if you decide to hate Valentine’s Day as a couple and devise ways to ignore it together, it will still strengthen your connection.
