How to Improve Your Skills
Communicating is a vital life skill that does not come naturally to all. When it comes to talking, the Red and Yellow temperaments have no problem at all – to the contrary, they are talkers par excellence. As the storyteller and performer, Yellow could make an impromptu speech with little or no warning, while Red could persuade a large group to follow his course or buy into his concept. But listening – the other crucial ingredient of communication – is a skill both Red and Yellow must practise.
Blue and Green, the two introvert temperaments, prefer not to talk and to stay in their cocoon. They certainly do not like addressing groups, let alone being on stage in front of crowds. In small groups, Blue can intimidate with his silence and judgmental body language. Blue temperaments should force themselves to communicate, accepting that not all people can think and reason on their level.
When Green can be persuaded to leave his cave, they communicate best on a one-to-one level with a close friend. Their fear of conflict and resistance to becoming involved makes them fearful communicators. They will not share their opinion or advice unless asked for it – this is a pity because their love of people, their honest insight and intuition equip them for problem-solving and negotiation in a unique way.
The good news is that communication skills can be learned. There are learning challenges for all four temperament types. Red and Yellow must improve their listening skills, while Blue and Green should commit to talking – accepting that others cannot read their minds.
Communication is necessary for healthy relationships and can contribute meaningfully to living and working together. It also contributes significantly to personal growth, happiness and quality of life.
