Scientists have proven that people would choose discomfort before the unknown. Even if your comfort zone is no longer comfortable, you would choose to stay there, rather than opting for a potentially better but unsure outcome.
This is possibly why most people cling to old habits, even though they know that these habits are detrimental to both their physical and mental health. Negative emotions poisons yourself and the people around you. It is like using Doom for deodorant – it pollutes the air that you and all around you, breathe.
Carrying resentment or bitterness inside you, is like dragging a convict’s iron ball around your ankle, clouding your mind with ongoing pain. Often the person that you resent, is not even aware of it – you and you alone carry the burden. It saps your energy, steals your strength and affects your productivity, happiness and general quality of life.
Medical aids’ statistics found that 60 – 90% of physical ailments can be attributed to emotional causes, mostly linked to some form of either fear or anger. Anger is an emotional bully that can disrupt the normal flow of blood in your body, resulting in a variety of serious ailments, including severe headaches, ulcers and ultimate heart disease.
Anger has many disguises. Bitterness, jealousy and envy, gossip and slander, sarcasm, criticism, intolerance, unforgiveness, vindictiveness and revenge, provocation and hatred are different forms of anger, mostly born out of selfishness.
In my study of the four temperaments, it was evident that the two extroverts (Yellow and Red) are inclined to anger and impulsiveness. The introverts (Blue and Green), are controlled by fear – another destructive emotion we will investigate in our next article on controlling our emotions.
