How to deal with criticism

Everybody appreciates a compliment, be that on your work or in your personal life. We accept them gracefully (I hope) and gratefully, but when we face criticism? That’s a whole different ball game...

Criticism can make you feel like an instant failure and just not good enough. Our natural inclination is to try and avoid it as much as possible. We adopt an attitude of not seeing and not hearing and trying to do the best we can.

Actually, that is the wrong way! Ignoring positive criticism can lead to a life of mediocracy, where there is no change, no improvements and even total failure!

Nobody’s perfect

Acknowledge the fact that nobody’s perfect and that there can always be room for improvement. If someone shows you a mistake in your work, accept it, rectify it and move on. Especially for the people with the Perfect Blue Temperaments, remember, it’s not the end of the world. Put it behind you and try again.

Listen to what is being said

Yes, I know some people are forever criticizing everything, but sometimes they just might be on to something. Show them that you listen to what is being said, ask where they think you can improve, measure it up to what you know, and see if it can work for you.

Although it is hard to face criticism, always remember not everybody is out to get you. Most people are only trying to help. If a colleague or manager criticise your work, don’t take it personally.

Someone cares enough to give you criticism on your work. Implementing their suggestions might well be the difference between success and failure. You would have been worse off if they didn’t say anything and watch you fail.

Accept what is being said, rectify it if you can and move one. Don’t go on the defensive and make excuses.

When to ignore criticism

Of course, there are times when someone might criticize you or your work out of jealousy or spite. Do not internalise the opinions of negative people. Filter all criticism first by asking yourself these questions:

• If I look at what is being said objectively, does it make sense?

• Will it enhance the project?

• Does it fit in with my standards?

• Was what they said constructive to the work or was it a personal attack?

• Does the person have the expertise and knowledge to criticise what I am doing?

If you are unsure if the criticism was constructive or not, always ask a mentor or another expert in the field their advice on the matter. Be openminded and see it as a challenge and opportunity to grow, rather than a burden you should avoid at all costs.